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September 10, 2009
Imagine a door in front of you. (or a cocoon all around you) It’s big and solid and you have no idea what is on the other side. It could be something awful. It could be something wonderful. You have no idea, nor can anyone tell you or offer advice, for it is YOUR door. It is only for you. It could shake your world as you know it, or add another layer of joy to your current situation. But you just don’t know. How do you feel about going through that door?
Most people have some level of fear around the unknown. Most people have resistance to change. While they may not like their current situation, it is comfortable and they know what to expect. Why rock the boat? Just get a “Life Sucks, then You Die” bumper sticker and on you go. And sometimes we must go through that door of change, even though we are fighting it all the way.
Or you could take a leap of faith in whatever lies beyond the door. You could possibly then own the bumper sticker “Life is an adventure. YEEHAW.” But you won’t know until you open the door and step through.
Why do we resist change? Primarily it is the fear of the unknown. What is behind that door? Adding to that, we live in a fear based society. It comes at us from all angles all day long. It is easy to buy into; to become fearful and try to stay safe. Though fear-filled “what ifs” we are controllable. Fear sells and marketing firms and politician know it.
We hold our life experience memories in our energetic fields much like a computer holds information; electro-magnetically. The more we think, feel and talk about something, the bigger it gets in our life—whatever it is (including fears!). We are feeding it and keeping it alive. That can be a productive thing for us, or not.
Perhaps you’ve been in a challenging relationship and it still pushes your buttons. It would certainly cause you to pause before jumping into another one, would it not? The energy you feed into that charge around the relationship is energy that you do not have available for something more joy filled. Plus the negative energy hurts you.
Pain, stiffness or movement limitations are often the result of trauma, stress, movement habits, injury, illnesses, stuffed emotions, fears or self-imposed limitations. The energy from these things can be stored in your body, causing you emotional and physical challenges.
Our bodies and minds are designed to be in motion, not frozen in time. The society we live in is constantly evolving and changing. As stated in the article, Centered in Chaos, “We are facing unprecedented danger as millions die annually due to an epidemic of stress-induced illness. The UN’s World Health Organization warns of a global epidemic of depression largely due to the stress of rapid change. Future shock is suffered by billions around the globe as the result of a world changing at ever increasing intensity.” That was stated in 1999.
Have you noticed an epidemic of depression in our country? It’s not surprising. And it’s commonly known that stress related illnesses are the majority of “what ails us.”
And our cells have a genetic programming to stress; fight or flight to save our lives. While that was appropriate when our survival depended upon it, these days our survival stress levels are more apt to come from the stupid computer, mile long To Do lists, change and the like. The response is the same. Being constantly on alert is making us ill and reducing our mental capacity. We have an evolutionary lifestyle and in order to not only survive, but thrive in it, we need to learn to deal with the rapid rate of change.
As we step into new territory (change) it is a wonderful time to also step into new, healthier habits and thought patterns. Like spring, it is time for us to begin to blossom into something new. And that can be very exciting. But how do you deal with ongoing change?
It may mean learning new stress-reduction skills or increasing your awareness of yourself and your environment. Learning to take care of yourself and your needs is very important. No longer is self care a luxury; it is a necessity. For if you don’t take care of yourself, you won’t be able to take care of your life!
Albert Einstein once said “the significant problems we have cannot be solved at the same level of think we were at when we created them.” In other worlds, it’s time to be open to new perspectives, lean new skills or consider new ways of being.
Are you ready? (it’s ok to feel the fear, just don’t let it own you) Take a deep belly breath and let the door open. Often the more fear you feel as you approach the door (or work to keep it shut), the more joy you can find on the other side (perhaps it’s simply the relief that it wasn’t as scary as you thought). In any case, opportunities arise as you open that door.
All of life changes and grows, including us. Your piece is how you choose to handle it.
Categories: Self Help, Uncategorized.
September 10, 2009
Everyone is feeling the stress, the fear, the anxiety. But the question is – what are you doing about it?
If you want to transform or release the blocks you’ve created from an inward perspective, you might want to explore The Work of Byron Katie. Deceptively simple and oh so powerful!
You could also baby step your way through your fear. It often feels larger than it needs to be – we are SOOOO good at making it big! But the key is just to feel the fear, let it be ok that it is there, and take a step forward anyway. Courage is the ability to move forward even in the midst of fear. What is one small step you can take to move forward?
When we are stressed, scared or anxious we tend to hold our breath and freeze. Fight or flight. If you don’t released the energy, it will build up within you and cause problems down the road. “The psychological changes you get from exercise are influenced by different types of exercise in different conditions,” says Bonnie Berger, EdD, director of the School of Human Movement, Sport and Leisure Studies at Bowling Green State University in Ohio.
Matching an activity to your problem can also help steer you towards a solution.
- Mindset: Overwhelmed by the prospect of a big life change (switching careers, moving …)
- For your Body: Try distance running, hiking, yoga, Pilates
- Why: Proving to yourself that you can accomplish a goal builds the confidence you need to follow through on big decisions.
- Mindset: Your self worth is challenged and you feel vulnerable
- For you Body: Rock climbing, skiing, weight training
- Why: Mastering challenging activities improves self image and strengthening muscles helps increase mental fortitude.
- Mindset: Stress & responsibilities are building
- For your Body: Dance, kickboxing, circuit training
- Why: Activities that require concentration help distract you from your worries.
- Mindset: Frustration and anger are building
- For your Body: Rowing, swimming, spinning, walking
- Why: Activities that don’t require quick thinking or decision making allow you to zone out.
There are many other ways to shift your mindset (music, creative projects…) and if you choose a more sedentary approach make sure that somewhere you include movement for your body. It could be dancing around your kitchen when no one is home, or better yet, singing AND dancing.
Get Moving – don’t let the stress settle into your body!
Categories: Self Help, Uncategorized.
September 10, 2009
A friend of mine asked me to go SUP (stand up paddling) on the river with her; she said it would be fun.
Okay.
So as I looked around town for board shorts (in a town known worldwide for wind & water sports) all I found were clothes for size 7 and below.
A red flag went up – why is it that only small people do this sport??? Maybe there’s a reason there are no larger sizes. And I flashed back to a time when a friend of mine said to me “Hey, why don’t you become a WA State Volleyball Referee with me? It’ll be fun” and I’m here to tell you that being a volleyball referee is NOT what I would call fun.
All of a sudden “fun” and “personal perspective” loomed in front of me and I realized I didn’t know what “fun” meant to Yvonne, therefore I had no idea what I was really in for. Yikes!
But out we went and as she gracefully stood up on her board and said something about it being easy, I stood up. You know that wobble when things can either get under control or go out of control?
Yeah….I went out of control, bounced off the back of my board and right into the water. I stood up, tried again (while Yvonne was doubled over laughing, still in graceful balance I might add) and with wobbly knees we paddled off into the river. I went down again, of course, but I’m here to say that it was fun and thankfully those boards are very forgiving and supportive.
Perhaps like life.
Categories: Self Help, Uncategorized.
September 10, 2009
We all have them. We all share them. What’s yours?
When you go into your favorite coffee shop (or juice bar or bistro or lunch cafe) do you have a favorite barista (or creator of yummy foods) that you hope will be available to make your item that day?
Have you noticed that even through two people can use the exact same ingredients, the results are noticeably different?
Why is that?
What is it that really happens when you take that cup of coffee from your favorite barista? Certainly there is more than the coffee, water and cream that you receive.
There is an aspect of that barista, called her jewel (or energy signature, or home vibration), that is unique to her and you are responding to that. It’s a quality, a vibration, that you are responding to and receiving.
How do you feel as you receive your coffee? What attributes come to mind after that interaction? It could be anything – gentleness, joy, connection, integrity …
What is your jewel? What is it that people receive when they interact with you? It is that trait or attribute that draws others to us. You and I can do the exact same procedure or session and yet they will offer different things because our jewels are different. What is yours?
And then, how brightly do you let your jewel shine?
Categories: Business, Self Help, Uncategorized.
September 10, 2009
You’re healing along fine from an injury, and all of a sudden the progress stops. You aren’t getting better, nothing is helping and the pain and limitations are still there. You’re doing all the “right” things; physical therapy helped, massage helped, other things have helped, until now.
You’ve been stopped dead in your tracks. Do you have to live with it the rest of your life? Maybe it’s just that you’re getting older and this is just what happens. Do you have to settle for increased aches and pains as the days and years pass by?
I had a client that had been in a collision and was taken to the hospital, unconscious. She was tended to and sent home, with a prescription for physical therapy. She followed the protocol and received benefit from it, but now she was stuck. She wasn’t getting any better – the pain, limitations and poor bone healing was causing a lot of stress in her life. She didn’t know what the problem was, she didn’t know what to do and she didn’t know where to get help.
How frustrating is that?!?!
It is common for some trauma to remain in our bodies after an intense experience. Drugs, while necessary, can cement over the trauma locking it into our tissues. Now when there is an opportunity for that trauma to release, it will, however it is common to close the door on it and lock it away. We just want to forget about it and move on with our lives. This route can lead to movement limitations and pain.
So now what?
There are things you can do to release it on your own. With all of these, breathe deeply and slowly. Let me share a few ways to do that.
- Be Present. Rather than trying to get away from the pain, sit with it, feel it and invite it in to see what it has to show you. I have a friend who invites those uncomfortable parts to “come, sit, have tea and let’s talk” to open the dialog deeper with her Self. You can sit in silence or journal your communications. You may be surprised at what you learn.
- Dance with the Edges. Any kind of gentle, safe movement that goes to the edge of the pain, but doesn’t force its way in can unlock the trauma. Yoga, slow meditative dance or gentle jiggles can all be effective.
- Bypass the Physical with Energy Work. Whether you work on yourself or enlist the help of another, this can be very effective. By bypassing the physical structures and going deeper into the subtle fields and pathways you can create an opportunity for full healing and release of the trauma. Often it is easier to get someone to help you if you’re feeling very stuck.
It may take a bit of practice to become comfortable with these techniques, but like anything, practice helps to develop your skills and increase your awareness. You’ll get better and it will be easier the more you do it.
She chose to call me for help. During our session, in a flash, she returned to the point of collision between herself on the bicycle and the deer. The impact was so forceful that the deer died from that collision, but fortunately she healed. The memory came up and it left. It was quick and simple – the trauma released as soon as it had an opportunity. She was then able to move forward with her healing.
Sometimes it only takes a moment of being present for trauma to release.
No one enjoys pain or feeling limited in their movements. Your body will always choose movement and healing over non-movement – we are designed to move. When you’re stuck, there is a reason. Rather than trying to avoid the pain, work with it. Get involved and communicate with your Self. Dance on the edge. Or call for help. We all need help now and then.
Categories: EMF Balancing, Quantum Touch, Self Help, Uncategorized.
September 5, 2009
Who wants to join me in the adventure of freedom and radiant living?
By that I mean freedom of the body, mind and spirit – to release the restrictions that have been holding us back so that we can grow into our grace and beauty in a more profound way. And radiant living = joy, vitality, health and happiness.
I’m new to blogging so if something isn’t working right or you have any suggestions to make this better for you, please let me know. I’m learning as I go here!
Cheer to us!
Categories: Self Help, Uncategorized.